How to get self-confidence is the central issue when tackling about
the development of self confidence in an individual who, for long,
have believed that his self-worth is deficient.
It goes without saying that those confident individuals can bear themselves
better than those who have lower sense of the "self". They are the
achievers, the people of the limelight, the center of the society. They walk
straight, speak their meanings very well and influence people, both subtly
and obviously. In short, they are those who care recognizable even from
Sometimes, self-confident people are very much loved by the society. It is
maybe due to their charisma or they are, by nature very amiable. However,
there are those self-confident individuals who, just by leaving makes the
These are two very dissimilar display of self-confidence. One, destroys a
person's credibility and the other intensifies his personality. And obviously,
you would not want the consequences of being too confident of yourself that
the people no longer view you as effective, instead they see you as
annoyance to their daily affairs.
Self-confidence comes from within. Outside stimulation may help but it
would all still boil down to knowing yourself and using that knowledge to
To get self-confidence, you must realize that your limitations must not limit
you and your attributes must not destroy you. Instead, use all these factors
to develop a personality that would be productive for you and all those that
"Know thyself!", says the Oracle at Delphi. Though this might have been said
thousands of years ago, it is undeniably true that we still can use the
wisdom it says.
Know yourself and get confidence. Recognize though that knowledge comes
nowhere but inside you. Thus, you have to accept the reality that unless you
embrace you flaws and perfection, the demons of low self-confidence would
stay forever lingering in your being.
There is a great risk in knowing too much of yourself though if your
foundations of self-control is not much too developed. You would be exposed
to your imperfections and since control is not yet yours, it is possible that
you will be eaten by your own flows. This condition is closely intertwined
with thought rumination wherein you seem to go around in your circle of
thoughts about your losses and failures regardless of your achievements.
Another danger of having no control of yourself while trying to get self confidence is that you might get too confident that you would forget the real
value of having the sense of self. As we have mentioned earlier, overconfidence is just as dangerous as having no confidence at all. This would
send you back to failures or worse to eventual downfall.
Knowing yourself is one factor that may either be dangerous or productive.
Self-awareness often times help people realize how wonderful their creation
was. They learn to give worth to their capacities and attributes that are
obviously as special as those that may be found with other people. We are
all unique and that is a fact. Our marks of unique can be seen through
closely looking at our capabilities and our incapacities. Our uniqueness is
manifested on the natural gifts that add to our greater self-value. Our
uniqueness can be seen though our potentials that we may either ignore or
maximize at will.
All these are truths that would stay hidden to you unless you have learned to
contemplate on your being and be aware of who you truly are.
Chapter 1: A Step in Building Your Self Confidence
Chapter 2: A Philosophy to Increase Your Self Confidence
Chapter 3: Building Confidence and Self Esteem
Chapter 4: The Roots of Low Self Confidence
Chapter 5: Thoughts on Improving Self Confidence
Chapter 6: What To Do When You Need to Boost Your Self Confidence
Chapter 7: Advises to Help You in Increasing Self Confidence
Chapter 8: Get Self Confidence From Within